Maybe a twin...

I'm sitting at my desk. Work is kind of slow. I'm taking advantage of the downtime. I'm watching YouTube video, catching up on reading blogs, texting friends...As I'm reading this blog post on The Everything Girl, staring at the pretty pictures of Lauren's apartment it hit me.

Maybe a twin.

Maybe I should get a twin...a twin bed that is.

I live in a tiny studio. I have no clue what the square footage is but I know it's tiny. As much as I want to move it really isn't feasible right now. But I am tired (so tired) of coming home to my bland apartment. I've lived there for 5 years refusing to decorate or add any type of personal touch because I told myself I wasn't staying long.

I've been there long enough. I need to make an attempt.

Right now my apartment is a bed...and a Rubbermaid drawer, and some end tables...Not fancy, but functional. Being that the studio is small I always had the mindset of not wanting to stuff it with furniture. But if I get size appropriate furniture, I can make it cute...

This is where the twin bed comes in. I have a full size bed now. If I get a twin I'll have room for a chair/loveseat. If someone came over the only place to sit is on my bed. Watching TV in bed is nice when I want to lay down. Who wants to lay down all the time?

At the moment I am single...I'm not dating. For however long I stay in my current apartment I may starting seeing someone.

Nights on a twin bed aren't hot...or comfortable.  And I don't care, lol. I want a new bed. I want room for a chair.

I could get a daybed. Although in my opinion they aren't that comfortable to sleep in.

The layout of my apartment is like this



In my mind if I put all that furniture in my place I would feel cramped. I hate feeling cramped.

A simple bed, chair, maybe a movable kitchen island and that's it.

Because...I'm not going to be staying here for long ;-)

Until next time

Short 2 long...and back

I've colored, relaxed, shaved, and braided my hair...I wanted to experience a weave and get a true feel of whether or not I can handle long hair, or want to for that matter. I thought it about for a good 4 months before I took the plunge and made the appointment.

On May 10th I went to get my first weave with Fashion @ NYC Weave Studio. I did enough research that I knew what to expect in terms of caring for the hair, and washing and moisturizing. I spent months drooling over pictures on Instagram. I purchased the hair from NYC Weave Studio...

Two bundles of deep wavy hair, 16" and 18" and a closure with a side part.

Totally SEXY.

Totally HOT.

Yet right off the bat I wasn't thrilled with the closure and the color of the hair on the closure. The lace cap wasn't bleached so the hair knots were visible, making it look like there were black dots. No fault of the Fashion. The color of the was a mix of off black with reddish brown on top, right at the crown.

The closure wasn't made custom- my fault.

Annnnnd that unnerved me.

I can be a perfectionist about the most absurd things.

I could have done things to make it look more realistic but I wasn't comfortable doing that.

The 16" and 18" length

was nice but screamed fake IMHO. Of course any hair past my ear is going to feel fake to me. I wasn't really thinking about that, lol.

I felt that shorter the hair would have more body, give it the illusion of semi real hair.

So my sister suggested I go to her stylist and have it cut and layered.

The cut it's self I LOVED. I felt more comfortable...but fuck damn the closure piece annoyed me. Every time I looked at myself in the mirror I focused on the closure piece.

I felt that's what people were staring at when they looked at me.

Totally paranoid...I know...but it's my head my mind and I wasn't getting around it.

Besides the closure piece I could not get the hair to hold a freaking curl. I didn't like the hair when it lost it's curl and had little body.

Now in all fairness the past 3 weeks in NYC/NJ has been filled with crappy rainy, windy weather.

I didn't want to admit that I was unhappy. But at the amount I paid I should freaking LOVE IT. No one would understand that while I liked the hair...I wasn't completely in love.

Comfort is a BIG deal with me and without having a therapy session within a blog post I simply wasn't comfortable with it.

Taking the weave out was impulsive to the point that I didn't know I was going to wash my hair, spend an hour drying my cornrows and then look in the mirror and want the damn thing out.

Good grief I did NOT expect that to happen. Yet once I got started the level of comfort I had been missing quickly returned.

Oh how I missed seeing my scalp and my curls, lol.

I don't regret getting the weave...not at all. I wasn't going to know whether I loved it or hated it until I did it. I *might* get another one ONE day, but I would definitely get kinky textured hair since I plan on keeping my hair natural. Other than the closure I liked the hair...but I didn't love it. It was too silky for my taste...Growing up all I wanted was smooth, silky my hair and FINALLY I had some silky hair and I hated it.

I did love and kinda of miss the styling options.

As my hair grows I am still obsessed with finding that "perfect" protective style. I'm aiming for at chin length as my first ultimate hair growth goal.

Another year of on and off protective styles and I will get there (fingers crossed).

Right now I have my hair pulled back in a tight teeny weeny ponytail (first ponytail in 15 years) and some kanekalon wrapped around as a bun. Depending on the weather I might keep this for the week...or not...After having a shaved head for 14 years I think I am allowed to switch things up whenever I want...

*Shoutout to Fashion, at NYC Weave Studio...regardless of my final thoughts this woman did a great job (out in two hours) and I highly recommend her if you are looking to get a weave and live in the NYC/NJ area*

Wanna know what I do next?

Stay tuned to find out ;-)

Until Next Time,

xo

 

My side chick...

My side chick can be a bitch sometimes.

She can be unruly, tight, hard to work with...a hot mess if she isn't given attention.

She can also be soft, playful, rewarding...a trooper...My side chick will have my back no matter what I put her through.

That surprises me. Especially since before the middle of 2013 we hadn't been spending much time together...for a looooooog time.

The one day I woke up, looked at myself in the mirror and said...

I miss her

Technically I am premature in talking about this...it hasn't been a full year yet...but it will be in June...

It has been a year that I have been with my side chick.

YIKES!!!!!

 

In May my side chick is going away for a bit.  But she will still be around. She's kinda going be replaced by my fling chick.

You know, the kind you see a few times a year. You got mad love for her...but by 1, 2, maybe 3 months you're done and want something new.

You miss that side chick cause you know one day she will replace the former main chick.

You gonna wake up one day and BAM...she will literally be all over the place...taking up space in your bed, in your bathroom, demanding WAY more time than she did when she was a side chick.

For a hot minute you might even think about going back to NO chicks...It's crossed my mind.

But I made a commitment to my side chick when I left my main chick.

I was going to do right by her, treat her right...and she was going to do me right.

She...MY HAIR...wasn't going to allow me any regret on this hair growth journey that I am on.

We are on the slow and steady road with much progress.

*Below are pics of me with my



"main chick"- my shaved head. Been with her for 13 years. Saying goodbye wasn't as hard as I thought it would be.

"side chick"- my hair slowly growing out. I like this one...I better because I know she is going to be around for a long time (my goal is chin length)

"fling chick"- the braids (protective styles) that I had for a month or two. She holds my attention for a while but I always miss my side chick.

This last pic is from last week

 



This is how my hair will remain till I get my new fling chick.

In order to maintain healthy hair not just growing hair I think of the process as a relationship.

I have to give my hair attention and patience. Listen to its needs while being mindful of my own.  Styling is time consuming and the results are worth it.

Think I'm crazy?

Embarking on your own hair care journey and let me know how you feel about "the other chick" spouting from your head.

~Until next time~

xo